If you are feeling lonely you may be damaging your physical & mental health

Feeling Lonely? You are not alone as there is an epidemic of loneliness worldwide.

Many people experience loneliness for the first time when they are left alone as infants. It is also a very common, though normally temporary, consequence of a breakup, divorce, or loss of any important long-term relationship. In these cases, it may stem both from the loss of a specific person and from the withdrawal from social circles caused by the event or the associated sadness.

In our research on Silence of sexual assault victims we discovered that many of them withdraw from active social life and feeling lonely. We also knew that older people also become lonely. We have already written about our research into loneliness.


Being lonely can cause damaging physical and mental health problems

The more we studied this subject the more alarmed we became. There is an epidemic of loneliness that is worrying. Health researchers recognise that chronic loneliness is damaging physical and mental health problems

Team Jane in a focus on young people found many are affected by modern life where face to face meeting with their friends has been reduced. We rely on instant messages  but when no one calls or posts a message feeling lonely emerges. When this happens the mobile app is checked over and over again. If the app allows a viewer to like what you have written it can cause stress if no one likes you enough to click a like

Waiting for the phone to ring or a message arrive and have not made any contact we start to worry about so many things as to why no one called, or if you have done something to upset them, or they are sick, or maybe they are too busy? This then can lead to depression.

Older people when they were young remember having aunts and uncles and cousins but modern children may not even see their parents often enough. They leave home to set up their own life but often find that it can be very lonely.

We found that no one ever admits to be feeling lonely and that they lack the skills to recognise that this is affecting them.

We recommend that it is up to all lonely people to do something about it themselves. Reach Out.  Contact friends and family more often. Ask your on-line friends to meet for a coffee.  You can volunteer to help others

For a detailed cover of this subject please read all pages starting with the following

Loneliness of silent sexual assault victims Lonely old people