Cyber Bullying what is it and how to deal with it

Cyber bullying is causing many people serious harm and must be stopped quickly but what is it exactly?.

When anyone obtains photographs of children and adults and these photos or any text are published on the internet without permission from the person in the photograph and if this is directed at a particular person with the intention to seriously embarrass, harass, threaten or humiliate then it is important to intervene and assist the victims. This is known as cyber bullying.

It is every person’s right to live their life free of violence and when violence occurs it is their right to receive compassionate, professional assistance in their recovery and full redress for the crime through the criminal justice system.

How to be SAFE from cyber bullying:

We have written a lot about safety on-line. One way is to go to to ARCHIVES and look at the list, or simply search our website. Here is some basic advice.

  • Imagine you see someone on the street whom you do not know: would you run up to the person and say Hi, I don't know you but I want you to take all this information about me and my family. I've included photos of everyone, together with their date of birth and where they go to school. We live at this address and here are the contact details for all of them including. We are financially OK as you can see from our bank accounts so just in case you want to see if i'm telling you the truth, here is my account details and of course my password.
  • No we are not joking. You may be surprised just how much information some people have about you.  When you sign up for a reward card with an organisation, this allows them to see you in detail. When you use a train or bus pass made for you, your daily travel can be matched to street cameras and where you . The government has access to many different departments and  information sharing means more people in government no everything about you. Then when you go on-line and allow your private and personal information to be seen by the public it doesn't take long for some people to know everything.
  • Don't send sexy pictures of yourself to anyone. We mean anyone.
  • Rule 1: Do not share your private information  with people you don’t know.
  • Rule 2: Do not reply to people you don't know who message you, or send an email, or contact you on any form of social media. Take steps to block them by making sure how you can do that on the device you used. If you do reply this will encourage them to continue or increase their harassment of you. We suggest that you add their contact number to a new account that you name BAD PERSON. If they call again you can see that BAD PERSON is calling and you just ignore it. This then places a record of the number of calls BAD PERSON makes. One of out team has a person called Junk who has 20 different telephone numbers. (not all from one person ) As soon as any number tries to call again the phone kindly says junk calling and they are disconnected
  • Rule 3: Keep a record of calls, messages, posts and emails that may be hurtful or harmful to you. Copy or print if possible before taking action to delete or block. Make sure you  add any other information that might help such as names or places where the images may have been taken. If you sent them yourself to a friend and the so-called friend publishes them without your permission it is still illegal and must be stopped. It is important to document facts about what happened.
  • Rule 4: You have the option to block, delete and report anyone who is harassing you online and on your mobile. Please find out now how you can do this by contacting the service provider or the manufacturers instruction book.
  • Rule 5: Log out and stop messaging if you feel you are being harassed
  • Rule 6: Report bullying always even if you know the person. Find out how to report bullying and harassment on each of the different social networks that you use.  Remember that it is your decision to report cyber bullying . If you are a child then you may wish to get someone you trust to provide their contact details.
  • Rule 7: Check your privacy setting often. Set up the privacy options on your social networking sites like Facebook in a way you are comfortable with.
  • Rule 8: If it is a situation where something is said to harm you or your financial interests then you may need special advice, particularly if it involves your employment
  • Rule 9: Check government websites in your country to see what services they provide. Some countries are excellent and some have nothing.
  • Rule 10: Try and tell all of your friends (and your family) what happened to you before someone tells them. Better you tell them even if it is embarrassing.