Rape: Let’s talk about it because we all need to manage risks to be safe

Why talk about Rape? The main reason is that someone is raped in America every 98 seconds. (for example). Worldwide millions of people are raped every year

Also it is not a subject anyone really talks about and it is really important. We understand why most  people do not talk about risks. I mean we don't think we may have a car accidents when we get in our car do we?  The difference though is when some things everyday and have experience to guide us.  For some risks like fire and theft or going on vacation we buy insurance.

But there is no insurance to cover sexual assault

In this modern world  some help is needed to know what to do when someone is raped.  We believe we all need an instruction manual  and this post is part of our manual being written for publication in 2020

Who is in danger?

Despite most people believing that young attractive women are more likely to be raped the truth is that rapists find easy targets and regardless of age, gender, colour, race, status or what they are wearing they rape them. Rapists choose vulnerable people and these can be children, people on their own, people who have to much alcohol, older people, students, homeless and disabled.

Sexual Violence Can Have Long-Term Effects on Victims

  • post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
  • suicide
  • drugs
  • alcohol
  • emotional distress. Tendency to argue more
  • isolation from friends, work colleagues
  • loneliness
  • pregnancy
  • disease (STD)
  • depression
  • education standard lowered
  • homelessness
  • unemployment

This post is for information designed to educate you just in case you or one of your friends or associates is sexually assaulted 

Safety first

People who have been sexually assaulted may be injured but they will be physically and emotionally affected.

If not breathing, make sure the victims tongue or any foreign object isn't blocking airways and if need be use resuscitation.  If you do not know how to do this you better learn now because basic first aid is so important in any emergency situation.

Make sure that an ambulance is called or a doctor located. Don't hesitate to ask for help.

If the victim is conscious talk slowly and say you are here to help. Ask questions "Are you OK?" Or "Do you have any pain?  Just act relaxed and try to explain what you are doing, like "I've called an Ambulance" "I'm going to move you into a more comfortable position" etc

If the victim cannot move and no one is nearby to help  try to make sure to stop any cuts that are bleeding. This can be done by squeezing the opening closed with your fingers or wrapping the cut tightly with some cloth in a way that closes the wound.. If you don't have a bandage, tear a piece of clothing, like a shirt sleeve Make sure you do not make the bandage too tight as it could  stop blood pumping through the area behind the cut. If the victim notices any tingling or numbness loosen the bandage.


If you think there is one or more broken bones,  move the victim very slowly and carefully into a comfortable position until help arrives. If suitable materials are available try and make a splint. This is anything thin  and straight that can be bandaged both sides of the break for support. Use clothing for bandages.

Make sure the victim is warm because they may be in shock.

Rape Victims cannot be expected to know what to do next  after being  sexually assaulted  but do not worry about that now, just concentrate on the victims immediate needs.

Unless in a situation requiring medical intervention usually only the victim can decide what to doing in the following hours, days or weeks. Some might not be injured nevertheless being Sexually Assaulted has risks and it is very important to obtain medical advice as soon as possible about emergency contraception and obtain tests for sexually transmitted infections

It is important for  the victim  to  go to a SAFE PLACE such as the home of a close friend or trusted family member.  This is a very difficult event for victims as they may not wish to tell anyone what happened.  Ask them! This is their personal choice and should be respected

Do you have to reporting the crime or not?

A Suggestion from our  legal advisers. In most countries sexual assault is a crime. You might not be able to report the crime or you may be unwilling to report because of various other reasons. We have talked about these elsewhere in this website.

However, f you are injured and have to attend a hospital the law in some countries requires these people to report to authorities that a crime has been committed. In this case the victim mat not have a choice.

What ever the case no one feels like making a statement to anyone about what has happened however it is important that the victim be encourage make notes.

For the rescuer you should as soon as possible record the date and time and anything you have done and heard, note the location, take photos quietly.

For the victim tell them to record as much as possible the names or part names of who attacked them.  Remember it is all about the rape

  • It is important to do this as soon as possible therefore try and remember anything about them, what they looked like, what words they said and which language used (even note any accent in the voice) , how big were they (height and  weight if you can, but just write bigger or smaller than me),
  • was there anything unusual about them (clothes, perfume, any smell you noticed).
  • You may not ever need to use this information but if you do you will be so glad you did. Why? Your mind will try and get rid of this terrible memory and forget about it, or later when asked to provide information you might have already forgotten some important items.
  • Once you write it down, do not leave it on a computer of phone but make a hard copy and put it in a very safe place.
  • Writing events down makes it easier to relax.